relative of Mary Unique Spears
This relative hid her face on camera because she is afraid for her own life. Mary Unique Spears, her 27 year old relative, engaged and mother of 3, was murdered outside of a club because she did not want to speak to a 38 year old man—that she nor her family knew—who was harassing her inside of the club, for hours. I legitimately—not tangentially or theoretically—understand her fear.
She was with her family. She was with her fiancé. None of this mattered. There was no “community” moment where this man reconsidered just because she was “taken” (which patriarchal men at times view as a reason to back down, if they view a woman as someone else’s “property” already) or with her family, or because she said no and mentioned being in a relationship. None of this mattered when he injured several other people—including some of her family members—and murdered her. Oh and they were leaving a funeral that day. They already buried a different family member and wanted to celebrate that person’s life at the club.
Mary Unique Spears is a Black woman dead because of street harassment. I did not see the man’s background stated, just that it was in Detroit which is the most heavily populated city in terms of Black population and familial report on what he said to her was in AAVE. And being the way race/class impacts access to many Black women in residential space, I believe he was a Black man. Though Black men are not the only ones who street harass Black women, Black women experience violence from Black men more than from anyone else, period. A lot (not all) of gender violence is intraracial for many races.
Black women are expected—even demanded—to be silent about street harassment if from Black men and on intraracial gendered violence in general, often told to focus on “White supremacy” as State violence on Black women. Then when we do the latter, that is silenced as well, told it “distracts” from what Black men, primarily cishet ones, experience with State violence. I put White supremacy in quotes here not because it’s fake—it is most certainly real—but because some Black men are disingenuous when they regularly suggest that Black women “only” critique Black men and “never” critique White supremacy (which is ridiculously false) and they won’t examine how anti-Blackness and White supremacy in fact impact patriarchal masculinity that many Black men think is the only valid expression of masculinity.
I think about her story and think about how easily this could have been me. How many times I’ve been threatened with rape and murder during street harassment that I have experienced for 23 of my 35 years alive, in all types of spaces, including clubs. How one man tried to run me over in a club parking lot because I told him I did not want to dance with him many hours earlier. How another man had to be held back and tasered by multiple security guards at a club to keep him from assaulting a friend and I at one of my past birthday celebrations in my 20s.
I…think about if this is going to be me someday soon, murdered by a stranger who felt entitled to my body and time.
this lady danced for all eternity
literally, mother nature.
I don’t care if I’ve already reblogged this.
nature is rad as fuck
Big sister drops to her knees to show affection to newborn Photo by James Irwin
This house project was by far the most challenging - but so worth it.
Big shoutout to my landlord for letting me get creative! 💕⭐️
#hellokitty #pinkkitchen #hellokittykitchen.
These lovable cat-themed sweets were made by Caroline, a Japanese housewife. She creates them annually on Cat’s Day — February 22. The cat-shaped sweets are nerikiri: a traditional Japanese sweet made by mixing sweet white bean paste and glutinous rice. Caroline tints and sculpts them into various shapes and styles; then puts them on pancakes and doughnuts as edible decorations. They’re just too cute to eat!